Here’s an example from a recent play session.
Two small boys always choose to play with each other in our Play Nurture Group, at their primary school. One week, a ‘sword fight’ using plastic water pipes resulted on one getting hit on the hand. Hecalled his friend ‘stupid’, and his friend did not like it one bit. His friend went off, and sat on his own, looking very cross. The other child tried to make friends again, to no avail. He came to me clearly upset, and I listened to him, acknowledging his feelings. Rather than go and fix things, I said I wondered what he could do to make friends again. This boy spent quite some time going between his friend and me, trying to fix things. Finally, he ran over to me looking very happy, and told me they were friends again.